It’s something she said. It really got to me.
“I’m starting to think I like my old self better.”
She said she didn’t like who she was right now and that she
felt like she knew too much.
It made me think too. And so I began... Am I happy with who
I am today?
It’s not that I know too much. And by too much I mean
awareness-wise. Or the silliest things like not being able to keep a straight
face when seeing a banana because of its obvious ‘adult’ connotations.
I was speaking to my mum not long ago about the fact that we’ve
lost contact with so many family and friends that I looked up to so much as a
child. You know the people I’m on about? That uncle that always used to come
over but then just stopped one day? That friend you had for so long and then
you ‘just grew up’? When did everyone I grew up admiring and looking up to
become so crude? Selfish and deceitful? Was it like this all along and I’ve
only developed the brain cells to acknowledge it all now? Were these people
always so horrible and I was just oblivious, young and far too naive to
question it?
Well, if returning to a time like that is what would bring
back my innocence, I’d rather stay a broken, fucked up and scrap minded girl for
the rest of my life.
It’s a big deal to have to ‘grow up’. Some people way into
their 40’s still find it hard to grasp the concept. Just scour Hollywood and
you’ll catch onto what I mean.
That’s all where nostalgia comes in. It’s almost like second
nature to us.
‘Old is gold!’ Bullshit.
I found this quote online that said, “Once I was a teenager
and I realised I could hurt people, everything was easier.”
It’s correct, isn’t it? Destruction is always easier. It’s
that hold over yourself, knowing you
have the ability and the power to say anything to anyone with the assurance of
an impact. That’s what growing up really is. The acknowledgement. Some use it wisely,
others not so.
Here’s another quote. You all know this one.
“Don’t regret anything in life because at one point, it’s
exactly what you wanted.”
I believe in that quote as much as I believe in the tooth
fairy. Besides, I’m pretty sure Taylor Swift was the one who said it which
gives me even more reason to dislike that quote.
Anyway, it’s the downfall of nostalgia I guess. You forget
the ‘regret’ part and long for a past moment. There is a reason that event has
become a memory and not something that exists for you in your present life. There
is a reason why you chose to let go and move on.
I feel as much nostalgia as the next person does. Human default.
Doesn’t make it a good habit though, does it? I know I’m struggling. I know I
could do better, try harder. But it’s being able to thrive for something better
that makes me happy to be in my present. I feel good to be able to reason with
myself which would be very much impossible if I was 12. I understand the
consequences of my every action. I’m aware. And yes, nostalgia doesn’t help to
sugar coat the negativity, but if being able to feel my surroundings and
embrace my life with every fibre in my heart makes me question my present self,
I’d rather wish to never have been a child.
I’m very anti-nostalgia all of a sudden as it seems. I don’t
mean to be. It’s just that with the word ‘nostalgia’ comes a bunch of labels
and stereotypes and sympathetic synonyms. I don’t want to go back to an old me
that had depression, got bullied, cried herself to sleep every night, lost her
temper and fought with people she loves.
I like me just how I am today and I thank God for it.
I’m alive. I am living and working my head and heart. And that’s
the best part of growing up.
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